I Know This About You. by Pastor Andy

Psalm 69:1-8

1Save me, O God,
for the floodwaters are up to my neck.
2Deeper and deeper I sink into the mire;
I can’t find a foothold.
I am in deep water,
and the floods overwhelm me.
3I am exhausted from crying for help;
my throat is parched.
My eyes are swollen with weeping,
waiting for my God to help me.
4Those who hate me without cause
outnumber the hairs on my head.
Many enemies try to destroy me with lies,
demanding that I give back what I didn’t steal.
5O God, you know how foolish I am;
my sins cannot be hidden from you.
6Don’t let those who trust in you be ashamed because of me,
O Sovereign lord of Heaven’s Armies.
Don’t let me cause them to be humiliated,
O God of Israel.
7For I endure insults for your sake;
humiliation is written all over my face.
8Even my own brothers pretend they don’t know me;
they treat me like a stranger.

I Know This About You.

I have a core philosophy on leadership. Are you ready? It’s not easy to comprehend. Okay, maybe it’s not so difficult…here it is.

Everyone is a leader.

You are a leader. If no one else, you are leading your family. Most likely you are leading beyond this. It could be coaching ball team, managing a few people at work or running an organization.

You are a leader.

With the Positives…

I’ve found there are a lot of positives with leading. Along with finding pleasure in those under me doing great work, there is also the simple fact that more gets done without me involved. My household is a great example.

Kia and I have delegated some of our household chores to our kids – dishes, laundry, some meals, etc. It’s incredible after years of doing all of these things to have them done without my involvement (though breaking up disputes is a regular occurrence).

I remember the pleasure when all my children were able to dress themselves. Now I can tell them to get up, get dressed and have no part in the process.

As much as that sounds like parenting…it’s really leading. I’m leading my kids to adulthood – responsibility, autonomy, decision making, etc.

You are a leader.

…Comes Responsibility.

Yet with all of the positive that comes with leading, there also responsibility. It’s why so many people don’t like the idea of leadership.

I’ll be honest with you. Most of the time, I don’t feel the full weight of the responsibility on me. I don’t mean the day to day, get-the-job-done responsibility. I feel that. I mean the larger, these-are-my-people responsibility. Too often, I miss it.

Recently, I got a (good) wake up call.

O God, you know how foolish I am;
my sins cannot be hidden from you.

Don’t let those who trust in you be ashamed because of me,
O Sovereign lord of Heaven’s Armies.
Don’t let me cause them to be humiliated,
O God of Israel.  -Psalm 69:5-6

As parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, Sunday School teachers and even friends of children, we are in a precious place. We are leading children – not just into physical and emotional maturity, but more importantly, we are lead children into spiritual maturity.

As I read those verses from Psalm 69, I realized my mistakes, can lead them astray. My words, my actions, even my thoughts, can destroy the faith of a child.

I hope that’s a wake up call for you too. You are leading your child’s spiritual life.

You are a leader.

Will you lead well?

Let me give you one piece of advice on how to lead your child well spiritually. I’ve become more and more aware of this in the last several years. It became super clear in a book I read about intimacy last year.

Donald Miller, in his book Scary Close, made this observation about the teenage and adult children of his friends. The ones who were the most mature (held your eye, had real conversations, weren’t overly dialed into their phones) had one thing in common. They all had parents who were open, honest and vulnerable with their children.

My advice? Be vulnerable. Share your weaknesses. Be honest about your mistakes.

Kids are dying to know we are human. They need to see it. God already knows we are foolish; they need to see it too. When you do, faith will become real in their lives.

When we are open and honest about our small mistakes and short-comings, something amazing happens. We are less likely to fall into large, image shattering sins.

This week, I challenge you to find one opportunity to be real with your family. Show a weakness. It’s okay. It’s better than okay. It’s leading well.

And there is one thing I know about you.

You are a leader.

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